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Stagnation in a relationship can occur for a multitude of reasons. Some people do not know that stagnancy can, and often will, make for a toxic relationship. Relationships can become stagnant through time as the spark might seem to burn out. Blaming your partner or yourself isn’t helpful, It’s more of a psychological reaction to becoming too comfortable or complacent. 

Once partners are with each other for a long period of time, they may find it easy to stop contributing to the relationship romantically; much less than they did earlier in the partnership. Luckily, there are several ways a couple can avoid this potential loss of passion.

Tip #1- Practice Conscious Communication 

It is crucial that when something contentions needs to be discussed, the conversation should be handled effectively and respectfully. Avoiding or ignoring unresolved problems builds resentment, anger, and overall exhaustion. Actively listening rather than thinking about your own arguments is one of the keys to a successful resolution. Each partner needs to be open to hearing the other person’s perspective instead of only trying to get their point across. Half-hearted listening and not acknowledging your partner’s point of view doesn’t move the conversation or the relationship forward. Instead, it prolongs the opposition, creating further distance and stagnation in the relationship. See Link on Conscious Communication

Tip #2 – Get Your Groove Back 

Relationships can become boring if both individuals lose their sense of identity. Just because you have formed a union does not mean that either partner should stop being themselves. Your individual personalities were the original reason why you were attracted to each other in the first place. Couples thrive when there is a balance and partners continue to engage in the hobbies and interests they are passionate about, those that made them who they are, even if it means pursuing them alone. 

Polarize and harmonize your energy

When the honeymoon period seems to be over couples tend to get out of tune with each other emotionally and energetically. This in turn creates static energy between them. Static energy interferes with the natural magnetic flow between partners and makes it difficult to relate to each other. You may be aware of the fact that radios once had dials. That allowed us to “tune in”to a particular radio station. Here in the bay area,If you like funk it was KSFX for pop it was KLIV or hard Rock KSME and so on. 

As we navigate between stations we would hear static energy. The further away we got from a station the more static we would hear. When we were close to finding a station the static would start to disappear. Once we were on the right frequency and  our desired station, we would have a static free signal and the ability to listen to clean and clear music. Well, every human has their own unique frequency just like the radio stations. Instead of blaming, fretting or debating the reasons for this static choose to simply change the station. It’s almost as easy as turning a dial. First find yourself. Take some deep slow breaths and tune into your own unique frequency. You’re on it when you feel free and easy. Then ask your partner to do the same. Then sit together and tune into each other. Sometimes that is all it takes however to maximize polarity focus on your pelvis glowing and synchronize your breath. After 10-15 minutes you should feel free from the annoying static and enjoy polarity and harmony.

Tip #3 – Keep the Spark Alive

People tend to feel very secure in a longer, well-established relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong being in a relationship one feels safe within. In fact it’s a blessing that not everyone gets to experience. However, for some partners, familiarity may begin to cause passion and attraction to fade. Some partners may secretly feel as though they’ve already “won” their significant other, and therefore shouldn’t need to try any more. This can result in a decrease in presence, a lack of proper grooming and a craving for new experiences, and even a lack of sexual intimacy. Everyone wants to feel wanted at the end of the day. Thus, it is still important to maintain that romantic pursuit and displaying your desire for your partner in order to keep the spark alive. 

Tip #4 – Juice Up Your Sex Life

One of the most important types of stagnation to address, but sometimes the hardest one to admit to, is stagnation in the bedroom within your relationship. To resolve this, couples can add more variety to their sex life. For example, couples can try new sexual positions with their partners or even explore the world of roleplaying. This invites imagination and overall fun into the bedroom so long as both parties are comfortable with the specific acts. Even something as simple as varying the time of day and the room in which you have sex can add an element of spice. Another interesting approach is to have a “make out” night where sex is actually off the table. By just focusing on the pleasure of kissing, even super hot kissing, can get your blood pumping without the need to commit to going all the way. You can also try alternating nights to give and receive. This way each of you gets an entire night that is all about them.

No matter what tip you try first, the important thing is to make an effort. Long-term relationships are rare these days, and they seem to be getting rarer. So if you are fortunate enough to have one, treat it with the care and concern it deserves by freshening things up and you may find yourself more in love with your partner than ever before.  

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