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Getting Over a Fear of Commitment

Getting Over a Fear of Commitment

What comes up for your when you hear the word commitment? Most people think of commitment in terms of relationship. We make a commitment to be in partnership with a person. We also make commitments to ourselves. We can be committed to our work, our personal growth,...

Adverse Childhood Experiences and Their Effect on Adults

Adverse Childhood Experiences and Their Effect on Adults

Adverse Childhood Experiences, commonly referred to as ACEs, are defined as any traumatic experience a child has gone through that directly harms the development of his or her brain. This directly affects how they respond to stress and can even go as far as damaging...

Sex and Mindfulness: Connecting the Two

Sex and Mindfulness: Connecting the Two

Sex can be a frustrating topic for couples experiencing issues in the bedroom, and the reasons for those issues can be a multitude of things. Performance anxiety, stress, mental health, or physical pain/dysfunctions are just a few things that can all lead to less...

Want to be More Confident? Take Care of Your Mental Health

Want to be More Confident? Take Care of Your Mental Health

Confidence is not something that all men have but something that most men strive for. Some men feel a good amount of confidence at work or with friends, but struggle to feel confident around women. For other men, it’s the opposite. I grew up with seven sisters, five...

Martial Arts and Mindfulness

Martial Arts and Mindfulness

My freshman year in high school, I met my cousin, David, who was a black belt in Shotokan & Karate. Everyone talked about David like he was the biggest badass around, so he was a living legend to me by the time I met him. I was shocked to discover he was a short...

Why Your Relationship Isn’t Working, And What You Can Do About it

Why Your Relationship Isn’t Working, And What You Can Do About it

It’s heartbreaking to see how long people often live with unhealthy and unsatisfying relationships. It’s equally difficult to see men who have given up on finding and having lasting love in their lives. I have seen couples and singles do the work of looking for and defining their relationship blueprint and then making changes to that blueprint. The results can seem like magic, but it’s not magic at all. It’s common sense.

Three Challenges Men and Women Face – Part 3: Sexual Energy

Three Challenges Men and Women Face – Part 3: Sexual Energy

In the final part of this blog series on some of the challenges men and women face in relationships, we will discuss the topic of sexuality and how our bodies operate sexually. Another key to mutual understanding between partners is knowing how differently we operate...

What are the Seven Depths of Touch?

What are the Seven Depths of Touch?

Touch is an important tool used to connect with your partner. Touches can be healing and evoke a number of feelings and sensations. When done with another person, touch should always be done very intentionally. In the Ancient Tantra teachings, there are seven...