TJ Bartel’s Blog
Rebuilding Attraction in Your Relationship
Intimacy plays a big role in a relationship. It's one of the things that can set your partner apart from the rest of the world. When you connect deeply from a place of love, your intimate relationship thrives and comes alive and attraction naturally builds. If you...
Getting Over a Fear of Commitment
What comes up for your when you hear the word commitment? Most people think of commitment in terms of relationship. We make a commitment to be in partnership with a person. We also make commitments to ourselves. We can be committed to our work, our personal growth,...
Adverse Childhood Experiences and Their Effect on Adults
Adverse Childhood Experiences, commonly referred to as ACEs, are defined as any traumatic experience a child has gone through that directly harms the development of his or her brain. This directly affects how they respond to stress and can even go as far as damaging...
Sex and Mindfulness: Connecting the Two
Sex can be a frustrating topic for couples experiencing issues in the bedroom, and the reasons for those issues can be a multitude of things. Performance anxiety, stress, mental health, or physical pain/dysfunctions are just a few things that can all lead to less...
Want to be More Confident? Take Care of Your Mental Health
Confidence is not something that all men have but something that most men strive for. Some men feel a good amount of confidence at work or with friends, but struggle to feel confident around women. For other men, it’s the opposite. I grew up with seven sisters, five...
Martial Arts and Mindfulness
My freshman year in high school, I met my cousin, David, who was a black belt in Shotokan & Karate. Everyone talked about David like he was the biggest badass around, so he was a living legend to me by the time I met him. I was shocked to discover he was a short...
Why Your Relationship Isn’t Working, And What You Can Do About it
It’s heartbreaking to see how long people often live with unhealthy and unsatisfying relationships. It’s equally difficult to see men who have given up on finding and having lasting love in their lives. I have seen couples and singles do the work of looking for and defining their relationship blueprint and then making changes to that blueprint. The results can seem like magic, but it’s not magic at all. It’s common sense.
Three Challenges Men and Women Face – Part 3: Sexual Energy
In the final part of this blog series on some of the challenges men and women face in relationships, we will discuss the topic of sexuality and how our bodies operate sexually. Another key to mutual understanding between partners is knowing how differently we operate...
Three Challenges Men and Women Face – Part 2: The Alpha-Beta Syndrome
In my previous blog, Part 1 of this series, I discussed how a lack of understanding is one of the many challenges man and women face when in relationships. Part 2 of this series will focus on what I call the “Alpha-Beta Syndrome” that dates back to the innate drives...
Three Challenges Men and Women Face – Part 1: A Lack of Understanding
It’s no secret that men and women are very different. These differences can lead to challenges in a relationship, as men and women often fail to realize just how different they are. This lack of understanding of how the other operates is one of the biggest challenges...